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Why so many “made in heaven” marriages fail?

30/9/2015

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What is marriage?

You were going about your daily life; looking for an ideal “life partner” - and suddenly things changed around you when you thought you met someone that made your heart stop.

But in reality what happened was that you stopped looking at the world rationally when your entire focus seemed to be just to “get married to my soul mate and live a happy life thereafter, raising children and generally live up to a prototype how a “good family” should be.
 
If all goes well it would be “a marriage made in heaven”.

Right?

How wrong that can be!

Are the marriages really made in heaven?  You were looking for someone YOU liked that and hence got married. What role did heavens have in this?   
Was it not just a question of projecting your desires and going ahead with what you consider the proper thing in your mind?

There has to be certain element of intellect and logic when it comes to anything that we do; especially when we form lifelong relationships.  But this is something that we normally falter at, always.  And the so called “made in heaven” marriage breaks apart sooner than it took time to form!

Most relationships are formed by reasons that are only emotional; and have nothing to do with logic or intellect or even reality that surrounds us.  It is generally our own imagination that is at work; which is why marriages fail once the initial sheen wears off.
People get together and its common to see such strong emotional projections like- “oh it's my soul mate”, “we been together even before this life”!

Then how come such marriages break?

When we talk of the soul we are referring to something that is beyond the entire physicality of the world around us, something beyond our mental and emotional realms.  The sensations generated by our body in response to what we feel using our five senses.  Soul is much beyond that. So how can anyone “feel” that they have met the Soul mate? It is all in our mind!

Therefore, quite often we do not we tend to think logically or analyze intellectually when it comes to making relationships that are permanent in our lives.  

So let's be realistic. The relationships in marriages are all made right here on the earth. Therefore the fact that we get into serious relationships for life; something like marriage presuming that it is made in heaven is the first mistake that we make.
What we should do instead is to keep  our eyes and ears open understand and know a person fully before getting into something as serious as marriage.  
And what do we do?
Instead of covering our logical instincts to know a person well, we cover it with a veil of this presumption of marriage is being made in heaven.  It is actually so unfair to get into something for the entire life without even knowing anything much about the person based just on our imagination!

Marriage is essentially two people growing together and to make it work well they have to give an opportunity to each other to be with what he or she likes and grow into life together.  Before getting into any commitment as serious as marriage you got to be very conscious about the entire thing and should ask yourself -
Am I using this person just because he or she makes me happy?
Do I want this person just because I am happy being with him or her? Or
Do I want to be with this person because I am already happy and I just want to share and get reciprocation of this happiness from this person?
Is it about reciprocation that is giving and taking or is it just about taking?  Yes things like - I want you, you make me happy, you are lovely to look etc are a pointer to the fact that all you want is about taking.  Your entire alignment is all about getting what you want. Even a perfect marriage or a soul mate.  

If someone fits in all your parameters – yes, it is what you would say a marriage made in heaven. This is what it is almost all relationships are all about - expectations.  Had it been something beyond you and more unconditional, only then it would transient into much more.

A conditional relationship is a limited relationship - and it is against the basic nature of humans. They abhor restrictions and limitations.  People really don't like to be limited.  If they have something, they want more and on getting that they won't even more.  When they have that, they want to get beyond and so on it goes!

Conditional relationships are therefore very limited relationship which would be enjoyed only for a very short period of time.  Therefore, it is important that you get out of your limitations and get into something that is boundless, unlimited relationship, without any expectations.  That is the type of relationship that would continue to grow and grow and enrich your life. 

Remember - the essence of all relationship is growth and once you stop growth by imposing restrictions it is bound to crumble. For relationship to be actually successful it has to be based on logic, intellect and the tendency to grow.

It is all about the art of acceptance with least expectations.
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Significance of Fasting in Hinduism

27/9/2015

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Most Hindus observe a fast regularly. It may be on a special day of the week  or on certain special occasions & festivals. While fasting, they either do not eat anything from morning to night or eat only fruits and milk products.
Fasting is called upavas in the Sanskrit and hindi. Upa means "near" & vas means "to stay". Hence Upavas means - staying near (to the Lord), or in close spirtual proximity with God. 
Why is upavas associated with food? 
We spend much of our time and energy in pursuit of satisfying our hunger and seek  food items; and thereafter a lot of time goes into cooking, eating & digesting food. Often what we eat makes us self centric  and quite often certain type of food makes us dull and lazy. 
Fasting on certain days helps us to save time and conserve our energy by either eating simple and light food (fruits) or abstaining totally from eating in order to make the mind alert and think beyond self. 
The mind when not  pre-occupied by food, thinks beyond self and tends to entertain nobler thoughts  Also, it gives our digestive system a break and rejuvenate.  It helps moving away from pampering our senses and helps sublimate our desires. It also guides our minds to move beyond self and connect with the almighty.Significance of Fasting in Hinduism

Most Hindus observe a fast regularly. It may be on a special day of the week  or on certain special occasions & festivals. While fasting, they either do not eat anything from morning to night or eat only fruits and milk products.
Fasting is called upavas in the Sanskrit and hindi. Upa means "near" & vas means "to stay". Hence Upavas means - staying near (to the Lord), or in close spirtual proximity with God. 
Why is upavas associated with food? 
We spend much of our time and energy in pursuit of satisfying our hunger and seek  food items; and thereafter a lot of time goes into cooking, eating & digesting food. Often what we eat makes us self centric  and quite often certain type of food makes us dull and lazy. 
Fasting on certain days helps us to save time and conserve our energy by either eating simple and light food (fruits) or abstaining totally from eating in order to make the mind alert and think beyond self. 
The mind when not  pre-occupied by food, thinks beyond self and tends to entertain nobler thoughts  Also, it gives our digestive system a break and rejuvenate.  It helps moving away from pampering our senses and helps sublimate our desires. It also guides our minds to move beyond self and connect with the almighty.vv
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September 27th, 2015

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jain philosphy

20/9/2015

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Jainism is an ancient religion from India that teaches that the way to liberation and bliss is to live a life of harmlessness and renunciation. 
The aim of Jain life is to achieve liberation of the soul.

Along with other Indian systems, it prescribes a path to liberation (Moksha), which consists of the three jewels (trinity or ratna-traya) of Jainism:
  • right perception 
  • right knowledge 
  • right conduct 
Right perception creates an awareness of reality or truth, right knowledge impels the person to proper action, and proper conduct leads him to the attainment of the total freedom. They must coexist in a person if one is to make any progress on the path of liberation.

Right Perception 

Right perception consists in seeing the true nature of every substances of the universe. Jainism advocates that one should first try to know, comprehend, and understand the nature of reality, one's own self, religious goal, and the path. One should analyze it, examine it, test it, and verify it, and then, if satisfied, be convinced of its truth and efficacy.

Right Knowledge 

Right perception or faith makes us realize the reality of life, and the seriousness of our purpose in life. Right knowledge is the true, correct, proper, and relevant knowledge of the reality, the tattvas.
Mainly one has to know the following:
Six Universal Entities (Substances) soul, matter, motion, rest, space, and time.
Nine Tattvas (Principles) Jiva, Ajiva, Asrava, Bandh, Punya, Papa, Samvara, Nirjara, and Moksha.

Philosophically, this is known as the theory of non-absolutism (Anekantvada) and calls for an attitude of openness. Our limitations of knowledge dictate a style of relativity. The style of Syadvada allows no room for assertions. This Jain theory of knowledge, incorporating the two principles of non-absolutism and relativity, has made an esteemed contribution toward liberalizing the mind of human being.

Right knowledge makes us examine in detail the matter brought into the mind by right conviction. Both are mental processes. Right knowledge must be free from three main defects: doubt, delusion, and indefiniteness.

Right Conduct:


Proper, correct, appropriate, and truly natural conduct of the living being (soul) is known as right conduct. The main purpose for a human being is to free himself from attachment (raga) and aversion (dvesha). That is to be free from all impure activities of thought, word, and deed. This will attain the state of perfect equanimity.
For practical purposes, right conduct comprises ethical codes, rules, and disciplines which an aspirant is required to pursue for the ultimate freedom.

This resolves into taking the five vows of an ascetic or house-holder.

  • Ahimsa - Non-violence
  • Satya - Truth
  • Achaurya - Non-stealing
  • Brahmacharya - Chastity
  • Aparigraha - Non-possession/Non-attachment


Right faith and right knowledge are required for right conduct, and all are interdependent.
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Finding True Love

17/9/2015

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During the course of my reiki healing sessions I often come across couples who had been in love for years before getting married - only to fall out within a period of few months.
This is surprising; after all, didn't they believe that their love was true and everlasting? 
So what happened? 
This is a dilemma we often see in our lives. We see images that we had for years, shutter in a few months!
And the solution lies in realizing that - after all, they are just the images. The images that had been created by us! 
What we create is what we believe in and hence the crux of the issue is that we believe in what we imagine.
Therefore, start practicing those values which would actually go a long way in making the true love that we always wanted a reality in our lives These values are-
  • Accepting the other persons fault
  • Accepting the fact that no one is perfect is the key to true love.   Acceptance leads to forgiveness and also the capability to overlook small things that come in between relationships.
  • Acceptance also means that we should understand the other person is not you, hence we should stop expecting them to behave the way we wish to. 
It is more important to accept yourself and understand that it is you, who created this love- which was based on unrealistic behavior; so in case there is any restriction in the relationships it is primarily because of the images that you, yourself created. 
It is best to live and let live and give space to each other as individuals - this would go a long way in in bonding and making love in relationships lasting forever.

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